Grief is real. It doesn’t go away quickly. It requires time, Scripture, and support.
One year ago this week, my son Jonathan lost a pre-born baby. He and Angie’s journey included a “healing song” Jonathan wrote that has brought them through. I would love for you to take a moment and watch it HERE:
I hope that blessed you as much as it has me! Heaven is real, and what we are really feeling is the “momentary” separation between us and our dear loved one.
Here are a few thoughts to help you in your journey of recovering from personal loss:
1. “They’re not lost.”
- People always say, “I’m sorry for your loss.” In truth, they are not lost…you know right where they are.
2. “They would not want to return.”
- Heaven is the ultimate destination. It is our forever home. Why would they want to leave that perfection to return to our world of terrorists, snipers, and diseases? David said after losing his baby, “He will not come to me, but I will go to him.”
3. “They would want us to go on with our lives.”
- A friend of mine, a very wonderful Korean pastor I have known for 24 years, knelt down alone in his room to pray. In prayer, he saw a vision of a former American missionary to Korea who had recently died. The man said to him, “Please tell my wife that I want her to remarry if she chooses,” he said. “And call her by this name” (an intimate name they used between them.)
- My friend wrote the widow who had returned to America and told her of his experience. He used the name he was told. She wrote him back and said she had struggled with that very issue. “No one on earth knew that name but my husband and I,” she said. She later remarried.
4. “Stay down in your spirit.”
- “Why” is the question. I comforted a pastor whose wife had been killed an hour before as she pulled out going to the store. They were actually giving that car to a missionary couple later that day. “Why?”
- I told him, “Stay down in your spirit.” In your mind there is a torrent of emotions and a maze of thoughts you can never escape from. Down in your spirit is the comfort, joy, and peace that your emotions and thoughts cannot provide.
5. “Eternity is real.”
- A doctor friend of mine died on the operating table. She felt her spirit rise to the ceiling of the room and looked down on her lifeless body. While hovering there, she noticed a safety pin covered in dust on top of a tall machine right there in the operating room. She found herself going into a dark cave and Jesus came to her in bright light. “I’m sending you back,” He said.
- Miraculously, she came back to life on the table. Afterward, she requested that someone go into the O.R. and look on top of that machine. There, to their surprise, was the dust-covered safety pin.
Heaven, eternity, and Christ Jesus are real. Unplug from this earthly vale of tears. Get your eyes on the prize. Use your remaining time on earth to advance the kingdom of Christ. That’s where my grandson is.
That’s what your loved one would want you to do.
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